Who’s Paying Attention to Your Husband

My husband, who created and designed this website, continually exhorts men to honor the covenent between
husbands & wives. As I've looked around and seen unhappy husbands AND wives in the church body, I have
felt for a long time that maybe women might need to be reminded what the bible says about our role in this
covenent. Satan would love to destroy the church family...beginning with the weakest part of the relationship.

Let's don't let this happen!!

Don’t take for granted that your husband will always be there. If your neglecting
him - not meeting his needs, there will be someone around who will.
"Wives, be subject - be submissive and adapt yourselves - to
your own husbands as a service to the Lord."- Ephesians 5:22

Websters Dictionary says - Adapt is to put oneself in harmony with changed circumstances.

Ephesians 5:33 "…and let the wife see that she respects AND reverences her husband - that she notices him, regards him, honors him, prefers him, venerates and esteems him; and that she defer to him, praises him, and loves and admires him exceedingly."

From Websters Dictionary
Regard - attention, concern, consideration, liking, value, watch, believe, hold, observe
Honor - To make a public show of respect or as the Bible says-"Out of the abundance
of the heart - the mouth speaks" Admiration, adoration, to commend, elevate, reliance, trust
Note: Men want to be trusted - it is real important to them.
Trust that they will make good decisions and that they will be faithful
Prefer - to like better, to give priority to, to place before
Venerates - admire, adore, approve, appreciate, cherish
Esteem - to have a high opinion of, value
Defer - to allow someone else’s opinion, judgment, to have more weight
than one’s own
Reverence - to be in awe

You reap what you sow - what are you sowing?

Ephesians 4:29 "Let no foul or polluting language nor evil work, nor unwholesome or worthless talk [ever] come out of your mouth; but only such [speech] as is good and beneficial to the spiritual progress of others, as is fitting to the need and the occasion, that it may be a blessing and give grace [God's favor] to those who hear it."

Ephesians 4:31 "Let all bitterness and indignation and wrath (passion, rage, bad temper) and resentment (anger, animosity) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention) and slander (evilspeaking, abusive or blasphemeous language) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill will or baseness of any kind)."

Ephesians 4:32"And become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another (readily and freely), as God in Christ forgave you."

I am not saying you should be a doormat. You will reap much more than you are sowing into your husband. It will be well worth seeing how he responds to God’s word in action.

If you are not doing these things for your husband, someone else will.
He will be drawn to those who have a better opinion of him.

Ephesians 5:15-17 "Look carefully then how you walk! Live purposefully and worthily and accurately, not as the unwise and witless, but as wise - sensible, intelligent people; Making the very most of the time - buying up each opportunity - because the days are evil. Therefore do not be vague and thoughtless and foolish, but understanding and firmly grasping what the will of the Lord is."

Are you so wrapped up in your children, that you don’t notice
the things that your husband is doing?

Family Order

God
Husband
Wife
Children

In Ephesians 5 & 6 the order of families is made clear.

Man leaves his mother & father and is joined with his wife.

Children are to obey and honor their parents (mother & father).

The worst thing in the world for a woman to do is side with her children against their father. A mother should never be more concerned with the children’s wants than the need for them to learn how to honor their father. If there is an issue that needs to be addressed about a husbands behavior as a father, FIRST getting direction from the Lord and a then a non-confrontational discussion with your husband would be in order.

Activities should be family oriented and not just mom & the kids. You are a wife first and then a mom. When the children see this, they will be able to have a better understanding of what marriage and family is about. It will ultimately teach them to be less self-centered.

The main activity to practice is Trusting in the Lord -
Trusting Him in every aspect of your life.